The Best Dating App or Website….

This is the million dollar question for all of us trying to find that potential partner. Well, one of the million dollar questions, at least.

There is obviously no right answer to this question; however I’ll give my two cents from the perspective of a guy who has signed up for them all. I won’t lie, I’ve probably deleted each of these off my phone a handful of times only to re-download it days or weeks later.


the most well know of the apps and probably the one we have to thank for the whole online dating revolution.

Personally, I’m not a fan. So many fake profiles and I feel that I match with significantly less people than I do on other sites or apps. I also don’t like how you are limited in the number of swipes but have no idea how many are left or even what this “magic daily number” is.

Grade – D


There is something super nice about not having to be the one to initiate conversations with girls in the dating world. Our social norms have it as something the guy has to do and frankly, I sometimes get tired of it. Girls want more than “hey, what’s up” but what do you go right to questions about them? Comment on something in the profile? This is another conversation for another day; however, bumble takes this out of play. However, the whole 24 hour time limit is a bit annoying. Additionally, I personally have had little luck on this app so I am not the biggest fan.

Grade – C


If you’re part of the tribe, like me, Mom and Dad have surely conveyed to you the dream of finding a nice Jewish partner and making Jewish babies. I’ve met a bunch of people from JSwipe and have never had issues with fake profiles or too many adds. I also feel that the fact it’s more of a niche dating app makes those who use it more in to finding someone (disclaimer – this is based completely on my experience). Plus, it’s kind of cool seeing the cartoon hora dancers when you get a match.

Grade – A


Ugh, this one pains me to write.

As part of the “tribe” – Jdate has become a virtual norm for people who grew up in the post 2000 world. The high holidays aren’t in full swing until you hear who’s daughter met a NJB (nice Jewish boy) on JDate. Unfortunately, I think this iconic website has run its course. Now, from my experience, most of the profiles are inactive. In a time when you can JSwipe, Tinder, or OkCupid for $0.00, the number of people willing to pay membership prices of $20+ on JDate has gone down quite a bit. I do like that they have an option where you can send emails and anyone, regardless of whether they have a subscription, can view the message. However, if there aren’t active members, this won’t be of much use.

Grade – D-


My brother met his fiancé on this website and I’ve had many good dates and 1 relationship result from meeting people here. However, the website has changed in recent months. Gone are the search and email days; now, you have to “swipe right” or like someone before you can email them. I’m sure OKC has lost many people to the various Apps so that is why they are doing this. However, in my eyes, it just has resulted in an awkward platform at this point. You have to swipe and email. Frankly, I don’t think it’s working and I’ve personally stopped using it because of this.

Grade – C-

We all have seen like 900 commercials in our lifetime and know the stats about 1 in 5 online relationships start on there, the 6 month guarantee, etc. But, is it all talk or legit?

Answer – 100% legit

My last relationship started from meeting on here and I feel this website has a vast pool of people on it. This is, of course, one of the biggest challenges of online dating. Yes, does charge a membership fee; however, the price is a fraction of other websites – it comes out to about $15 per month with the right promo code. Not a bad deal given the number of people you can potentially reach on this website.

Grade – A

Coffee Meets Bagel

This is a real unique one in the you are limited to the number of “swipes” you get each day, unless you purchase more. They’ve recently added features like telling you if someone likes you or giving you the ability to skip the line of other suitors for a price (in their bean currency). I personally can get lost in the searching and swiping and before I know it, 45 minutes have gone by. I like the fact CMB limits the time you are in the app checking people out. They’ve evolved over the years but unlike OKC, I feel this app has kept up with the times very well and in turn, is gaining popularity.

Grade – B


Online Dating Analogy

Online Dating is like a game of Darts……if you are blindfolded and spun around 20 times.

Think about it – you’re trying to hit the tiny bullseye (a relationship), but are blindly aiming at it. Yes, you are looking at profiles and pictures, but how much can a person really detail about themselves in 2 paragraphs? Plus, of the 5 picture chosen, what’s been done to them? Chances are, some filter or blemish remover has been applied (I wont lie I’ve done it). We are not choosing to swipe right based on things that will make a relationship last, like personality, humor, or how well we get along, but rather looks and what people say about themselves (which of course has to be taken with a grain of salt). THEN, we hope they have the other characteristics. Because of this, I am sure we miss many great potential marches and focus on others that really wouldn’t be good ones.

Because of this, there will be many misses. However, it just takes one bullseye to end the game so I guess if we throw enough arrows one will blindly hit the center. Just a matter of when.


Happy 30th Birthday – it’s over

Happy birthday to you…

Happy birthday to you…

It’s almost your birthday,

But I’m sorry were through.

This is how I will always remember my 30th birthday. It didn’t go down quite as literally but the short of it is, right before I was set to turn 30, my girlfriend dropped a bomb on me…

“I’m not feeling this is right”

I thought she was the one. We were only together a few months but I never felt such excitement to see someone. She was caring, genuine, and upfront with her feelings.

Then, things changed.

She became distant and I was walking on eggshells. However, she assured me things were OK with us. A week later, it was over and I was crushed. To add salt to the wound, my 30th birthday was only a few days away.

I spent the coming days trying to figure out where this went wrong. I had never seen something change so quickly and so dramatically. I tried to talk through it with her but she didn’t want to discuss anything. I felt like I went from boyfriend to a piece of garbage thrown to the curb. Yet, I wanted her back in my life so bad. When it became apparent we were through (or more accurately, when I accepted this), I wanted to start trying to fill this void in my life right away.

If only I could do it some way other than dating. Too bad it wasn’t like a goldfish that went belly up and was “replaced” the next day. This is quite the opposite; I have to re-enter the horrible dating game, yet again. Ughhh

One other thing I didn’t mention earlier….

This happened less than a month ago

So, it’s very raw for me. Yesterday I saw her picture and the pain came right back to me. This has caused a lot of pain; yet, I’m ready to get back in the saddle and start dating again. Not because I like dating, but because I like having someone in my life.

Is this insanity?

Time will tell, I guess.

Average Joe’s Dating Resume

Working in the corporate world, I often compare dating to business so inevitably, I see my dating history like a resume.

Here is what my “resume” would say if you took a look:

#1-This looked to have the potential to be the only stop on this journey. For a long time, I saw myself starting and ending my career here. This was the lifelong career we all dream of. 

 #2-After the lifelong career came to a screeching halt (think going from 75 mph to 0 mph in seconds….it was bad), I started job hoping a bit, keeping “positions” for about 6 months or so

 #3-A period of unemployment that lasted just under 3 years. 

#4-More job hopping – however, now we are talking less than 6 months at a time

So when this resume comes across the desk of a potential employer (aka- there’s a girl interested in yours truly), I imagine it brings up some questions.

What happened to your potential lifelong career?
Please explain the period of unemployment?
Why are you job hopping so much?

I wish I had a good answer for all of these questions but ultimately, my answer for all of them is one thing…

Life happened.

I could detail what in life happened in each stop but I’ll spare you and my fingers the details. The short of it is we got older and found ourselves. Life took myself and my ex-girlfriend(s) in directions that ultimately ended the relationship. Fortunately, I’ve never had a relationship end because of cheating or there being anther guy in the picture (knock on wood many times). The reverse also applies – I’ve never cheated or left a girl to pursue another one.

Through every relationship, I’ve learned something about myself, what I want, and what I don’t want. I’ve definitely done some things wrong and I’ve tried to improve the next time. In some cases, I improved and in others, I still need to.

It’s always an adventure though, no question about that!





Welcome to Dating Diaries of Average Joe

Dating = Necessary Evil 

(at least in my eyes it is)  

I want to find that special someone; yet, hate playing the dating game. Nevertheless, in American Culture in 2017, playing the dating game is the only way I’m going to meet “the one.” That is, if she’s out there.

My name is Seth – I’m a 30 year old guy living in Philadelphia. I have a good job working in the software industry, am about average build, and am terrible at picking up girls at the bar. In short, I’m your Average Joe.

I’ll detail my dating background in a future post; but here are some basic stats about my dating life since the beginning of 2015. 

*2 relationships of 6 months or less

*30 First Dates

*44 Total Dates (excludes speed dating or dates with future girlfriends)

*Countless swipes that went nowhere

So, does this make me an expert on dating? Absolutely not. I feel like an amateur every time I go on a date or try to message a girl on a dating app. It was this feeling that led me to look-up what other guys are feeling when they are in similar situations and here is what I found…

There is NOTHING out there!

Every blog or website I saw was from the perspective of someone who claims to know what they are doing or someone who says they overcame the difficulties of dating to be a pick-up artist of some sort. It’s possible that’s the case; however, the six pack of abs and muscles may have helped to. I didn’t see anything written from the perspective of an average guy, detailing his struggles and successes.

And thus, Dating Diaries Of Average Joe was born.